Are you the type of a mom who is too devoted with the kids and doesn’t really care if her marriage fails as long as the kids are under her custody? If you’re answer is yes, well, you are not alone. I am one of those fierce wives who are willing to tell her husband to “Go to hell for all I care as long as my kids are mine” when something goes wrong in a relationship.
Moms are designed to be dedicated with their kids and there is nothing more wonderful than motherhood. Ever since we brought them to life, we became selfless and started to evolve our worlds with them more than our husbands. We prioritize the needs of our children first before attending to our husband’s needs. Maybe because from the day that we found out that we are pregnant, we began to get attached with the little life inside our womb. The wonderful idea that they grow inside our body and giving birth to them after nine long months (not to mention the nauseas and everyday morning sickness for several months), I bet every mom are more than willing to die just to see their children happy and contented. We sometimes neglect the fact that in order to make our children happy, we must let them live inside an ideal and happy family as much as we can. And a happy family consists of a happy mom, a happy dad, and happy kids that would make our house a home.
Time and effort management make a lot of sense in keeping a harmonious relationship between your husband and the kids. As much as possible we would want to see them both well-taken care of. But we must not disregard the man that took us to the altar and promised a “for sickness and in health, till death do us part” vow with. They are also selfless providers who have nothing in mind but to make a living for his wife and his children. We say we sacrificed a lot, they are, too. (I know all the married men out there might put up a fans club for me because of this) ^_^
Personally, I am guilty to all of these. I often took my husband for granted and got preoccupied with the household chores and my children’s needs. I am just so lucky to have a husband who has a ton understanding and seems like having a never ending patience with everything. He puts a lot of effort to get my attention most of the time and let me feel that I am well-loved despite of the lack of time and I must say, less love that I’ve given him all these years.
One day, I just came into a realization that in order to have a happy home, a happy marriage should exist. And a child deserves to see their parents love each other under one happy roof.
Take care of our marriage, be a happy wife, then a happy mom will come out, who has enough energy and overwhelming love to divide equally for her children and for her better half.
Posted at 12:31 PM | Labels: Married Life |